We are a binational gay couple living in Toronto formerly in NJ, USA. We struggled for 6 years just to remain together. In early 2006 we were inspired to apply for residency in Canada because we yearned to be free, equal and safe from the tyranny of the right. This blog will be a mix of our immigration process, our daily lives and topics of interest like politics and religion.
Monday, February 26, 2007
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
The visit with my family went very well, we even got Ana on a sled in my parent's back yard. As usual the day was filled with love and laughter. Uncle Tommy even took his niece out for a driving lesson in his new car!
Today Emi, myself, Ana and Carmen walked down to City Hall to apply for our Civil Union license. We have to wait 72 hours before having a ceremony. We decided to have a very small, immediate family only ceremony on Saturday at 2PM. (Sorry to any local friends reading this, we realized if we invited some we had to invite all. After the whirlwind three weeks with the visitors we just don't have the time, energy and expense for more, don't worry we still love you!) Sadly Emilio's Mom and Ana will not be here for the civil union, they are going home on Friday.
Our town mayor has agreed to civil unionize us. We are very happy with her accepting with such late notice and her enthusiasm when we spoke.
We're looking into catering the event tonight. I don't want Emilio working his butt off like he usually does at our functions.
We'll post pics and maybe even a film of the event.
Saturday, February 17, 2007
We decided to go see the Empire State Building. I have never been to the top so Ana bought our tickets and we headed up. Luckily for us it was just before sunset so we got day and night pictures. It is magical up there to say the least.
After the Empire State we hopped a cab to Rockefeller Center and saw the skaters and then walked around the corner to the Venezuelan Embassy and on over to St. Patricks Cathedral. At the Cathedral after we walked in I called Emilio over and planted a nice kiss on his lips. Take that Pope Ratzi! I hadn't been in the Cathedral in many years, I forgot how beautiful and majestic it is and at the same time a collossal waste of donor dollars.
The ladies wanted McDonalds so we took them to the grandest McDonalds in Manhattan back at Times Square.
At this point I was exhausted and we hopped on the subway back to the car and the long ride back home.
The rest of the week has been fun. My Dos Chicas (My two Girls) tried to teach me Sala and Merengue, but I have two left feet and stepped on my Mother in laws foot.
Everday Emilio takes them out shopping to their great enjoyment. Yesterday when I got home from work the ladies greeted me with homemade Pom Poms and a cheer. It's was hysterical.
Today they meet the rest of my family. We are going over to the Poconos to my Mom and Dad's house.
P.S. I am having a hard time logging into Blogger Beta from my lap top, which I use during the week. I don't know why it won't let me log on from it.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
The Whirlwind Week
The first week went by so fast. We celebrated Emilio's Mom's Birthday. I got up early to make her pancakes with chocolate chips. Later, we took Carmen and Ana out for dinner to celebrate.
Emilio had his nasal surgery last Thursday, he his doing great. Tomorrow they take the packing out.
The ladies seem to love shopping the most. Emilio takes them to various malls and they enjoy looking around.
Yesterday we took them up to the Poconos to meet my brother Mike, his wife Marie and my niece Heather. We went to the local winery and tasted some of their wines. The ladies liked the apple wine the best, so we bought them each a bottle to take home. Afterwards we took them to the barn to see Marie's horse. I then showed them how to make snow angels. It was hysterical.
This morning I took them to the supermarket and they loved it. It's amazing how simple things fascinate them.
Today we are going to take them to see New York. We expect snow the next three days so we had better get in what we can. Right now Emilio is singing "New York, New York" on Karaoke to get them ready. Ana just joined him in song.
Off we go!
Tuesday, February 06, 2007
Things are going great
The airport on Sunday was very emotional for all four of us. We came home and had a small Thankgiving dinner.
The last two days have been wonderful. I am amazed at the ways we are finding to communicate. I already love my mother in law and her friend Ana. The "girls" and I spent a lot of time together because I worked from home. They are adorable and Emilio is very happy.
Sunday, February 04, 2007
Today we are going to the airport to pick up Emilio's Mom and her friend. Emilio has not seen his mother since October 2000 so this is a very important day for us.
I plan on filming the reunion as it is one of those landmark days in a relationship. I am looking forward to meeting my mother in law.
Friday, February 02, 2007
Today I am celebrating with pride the FIFTH year that I quit smoking. I celebrate that I have won the battle against the vicious addiction, not only now the future too. This was achieved with help from to Tom, who provided me with the necessary help and over all, his Love, compassion, support and patience.
It was a difficult road that became easier every day more. I will never forget this question: “ So, are you coming down from your Nicotine over-doses, or aren’t you? when I conversed inside the elevator with Pedro Fernandez at my work Inelectra, one of the many mornings I smoked. Pedrito, That day you planted a seed in me that helped to convince me, many years after, how injurious it is smoke. Not only to my own heath but to have understood how disagreeable the smell that smoking impregnates everywhere.
Thanks Tom and Thanks Pedro,
because you guys I celebrate this 5 years,
Thursday, February 01, 2007
Mary Cheney's Pregnancy
Mary Cheney slammed James Dobson in a NY times interview. (see below). I have to admit despite past ill feeling towards Mary, that her pregnancy is causing a giant tear in the fabric of the Republican party and conservative base. If James Dobson continues trashing her in the press, and I hope he does, the almost sane people in the Republican party will finally shed themselves of the religious right. It will be a win for all of us if they are relegated back to the looney bin.
I had to laugh at Dick Cheney saying Wolf Blitzer was out of line for asking about the Dobson quotes against his grandchild. He certainly did not think it was out of line for his political party to demonize us to win elections. Cheney helped create these powerful psuedo Christian monsters and now they are going after his family......what did he expect them to do?
By KATHARINE Q. SEELYE
Published: January 31, 2007
Mary Cheney, the lesbian daughter of Vice President Dick Cheney, today for the first time publicly defended her decision to become pregnant and asserted that same-sex couples are equally capable of raising children as heterosexual couples.
“When Heather and I decided to have a baby, I knew it wasn’t going to be the most popular decision,” Ms. Cheney said, referring to her partner of 15 years, Heather Poe. She then gestured to her middle — any bulge disguised by a boxy jacket — and asserted: “This is a baby. This is a blessing from God. It is not a political statement. It is not a prop to be used in a debate, on either side of a political issue. It is my child.”
Ms. Cheney, 37, was speaking at a panel discussion sponsored by Glamour magazine at Barnard College in Manhattan. The baby, whose sex she has not publicly disclosed, is due this spring and will be the sixth grandchild for the vice president and his wife. Ms. Cheney, who is vice president of consumer advocacy for AOL and lives in Virginia, has not said how she became pregnant.
Her father became testy last week during a CNN interview when the host Wolf Blitzer asked what he thought of conservatives — specifically James C. Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family— who are critical of his daughter Mary’s pregnancy.
In refusing to answer, Mr. Cheney told Mr. Blitzer that he was “over the line.”
Ms. Cheney said in a brief interview after the panel that she was not speaking for her father, but that when she saw the interview, she also felt Mr. Blitzer had crossed a line. “He was trying to get a rise out of my father,” she said.
Today at the panel discussion, inside a stuffy room decorated by portraits of stern-looking former Barnard presidents, Cindi Leive, the editor of Glamour, asked Ms. Cheney if she had anything to say to critics like Mr. Dobson.
Mr. Dobson wrote in Time magazine last month that years of social research “indicates that children do best on every measure of well-being when raised by their married mother and father.” He also wrote that his group believes that “birth and adoption are the purview of married heterosexual couples.” (Two of the researchers whom Mr. Dobson cited in his article have complained that Mr. Dobson distorted their views and said they disagreed with his conclusions.)
Ms. Cheney noted Mr. Dobson’s distortions of the research he cited and added: “Every piece of remotely responsible research that has been done in the last 20 years has shown there is no difference between children raised by same-sex parents and children raised by opposite-sex parents; what matters is being raised in a stable, loving environment.”
She said Mr. Dobson was entitled to his opinion, “but he’s not someone whose endorsement I have ever drastically sought.”